Generally speaking, we live in a culture that likes certainty, structure and clear plans. We like to know just where we are going and what route we are going to take to get there. And, when one plan falls through, we are quick to make another (plan B!), always trying to feel in control, confidently steering the ship of our life. The problem with this, however, is that by trying to control, guide and direct at all times, we often miss the opportunity for reassessment, realignment, surprise, synchronicity and generally, allowing the universe (spirit, higher self, etc.) to have a hand in the direction of our lives. As many of us know, when we fail to listen to guidance, it often just gets louder, our lives become more challenging, and we are confronted again and again with what we are trying to avoid. While times of uncertainty can absolutely be unsettling, uncomfortable and even scary, it is important to also realize the opportunity being offered to us when the unexpected happens, our plans don’t work out or change and transition are in sight. We rarely appreciate the gifts and unique invitation that these times offer, nor do we recognize that by leaning into the discomfort, we can tap into a more expansive perspective, make more intentional decisions and live life with greater ease and flow.
As we attempt to control all the circumstances in our life, we tend to cling on to how we think things should go and, as a result, our belief about what should or could happen narrows, our perspective becomes limited and we attach to a desired outcome. As we do this, we also disengage from a sense of trust in life and fall into the habit of thinking we are the masters of our own fate. When this becomes a way of being, we begin to experience a great deal of stress when things don’t go as expected, which, as we all know, is a common occurrence. Life is always changeable and unpredictable, thus, we often feel stress, worry, and even panic.
On the other side of the spectrum, if we stop trying to control and allow our lives to unfold with a sense of trust, we no longer have stress and worry as our constant companions and in addition, we open up to the gift of wondering. Can you feel what a different energetic state this is? Trust and wonder – open, reflective, even magical, as opposed to control - rigid, constrained and exhausting. What if you could trust that what is happening is just right for you, even if you don’t understand why? What if you saw this change of plans as an opportunity to stop and think about what intentional choice you really want to make, or, are even feeling guided to make? If THIS can become your habit, imagine what could happen! Your perspective opens, possibility comes into your life to play and maybe, just maybe, something even better than what you were imagining could come into being. As we let go of control and force, we create space in our life for what we truly need to flow to us.
As we open up and let go of our very human agenda, we also have the opportunity to look at and reassess what seeds we are or have been planting and think about where that is taking us. Are we actually headed for what we want? Or are old wounds, limiting beliefs and feelings of duty and obligation running the show? Often, the universe comes in to shake things up when we are resisting a change we know we need, but are scared or unwilling to make. When we find ourselves in transition, facing unexpected change or needing to reroute, it is often a call for redirection. What needs to shift for you to show up fully in your life, grow and move towards what you want on a soul level?
While it is certainly true that it is easy to get mired in indecision, and, uncertainty, though valuable, is not a place that you want to stay for too long, sometimes it is just the invitation needed to go deeper, drop into trust and see what surprises are in store. By opening up to exactly where you are and tuning into the present moment rather than worrying about the future, you shift your energy into a state of reflection, renewal, and even receptivity. As you resonate in this vibration, you might just find magic, surprise, synchronicity and blessing waiting for you.
Hi! My name is Ashley and I'm a transformational healer, writer and artist. Here you will find articles on a variety of topics related to health and healing, conscious living and self-growth. Hope you enjoy!